September 18, 2021

Not dare to refuse others is also a psychological barrier!

“Yes” and “No” are two views that express positive and negative views. The ancient Greek philosopher Vadagolas said: Saying the shortest and oldest word, “good” or “no”, requires the most careful consideration. When you think this matter is inappropriate after serious consideration, you may as well say “no” openly. Otherwise, you will fall into a passive situation, and it will be detrimental to others and yourself.

Psychologists believe that not saying “no” is a manifestation of psychological fragility in interpersonal communication. These people have psychological barriers in rejecting others. They worry that rejecting their friends will hurt each other and lose their friendship. Therefore, always wrong oneself and fulfill others. This puts unnecessary pressure on their psychology, and severe cases can also develop into mental illness.

So, how to reject friends without affecting the friendship?

The first is to adjust the mentality. Many people are embarrassed to reject others because of their own personality and mentality. They thought they rejected their friends this time, and they wouldn’t be able to speak to their friends next time they had something to do. At the same time, they care too much about others’ evaluations of themselves, and they always want to leave a good impression on their friends. In fact, true friendship will not be broken just because of your rejection. So you have to adjust your mentality and refuse if you refuse. You must know that true friends are honest with each other and will never be overwhelmed by others. Therefore, such worries and worries are unnecessary.

If you refuse your friends, you must talk about art. Tell the other party your reasons, and tell your friends about your difficulties and difficulties sincerely and clearly. When you refuse, be clear and straightforward. Don’t linger, hesitate, and don’t be ambiguous or oblivious. Don’t use words that make the other person hold a glimmer of hope, such as “let me try”, “I will think of a way” and so on. Otherwise, the other party will mistakenly think that you have promised, and mistaken things instead. In short, refuse to be decisive, clear, and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. Also pay attention to the tone of speech must be euphemistic and clever.



Learning to refuse can reduce a lot of psychological pressure and gain the initiative in interpersonal communication. This will not only allow you to enjoy the warmth of friendship, but not lose your position on issues of right and wrong.