September 27, 2022

Confused romance: fetish

Fetishism, like exhibitionism and voyeurism, used to be considered hooliganism. For example, after a person stealing a woman’s underwear is caught, he will be beaten up and sent to the police station. Later, fetishism was regarded as sexual perversion, sexual harassment, psychosis, etc. So far, many doctors in psychiatry and psychology in China still regard fetishism as sexual perversion, and they only need to “strengthen willpower and control it.” . This has caused discrimination against patients and their families, and has endured tremendous pressure.

In recent years, social culture has become more and more tolerant, foot fetish, shoe fetish, etc. have become popular, and have formed a “subculture” with many fans. Even the German “banned film” “Confused Romance”, which specializes in necrophilia, has been enthusiastically sought after by fans. .

Psychiatric experts at home and abroad believe that fetishism is a disorder of sexual preference and has little to do with personal morality and willpower. Of course, people who struggle with fetishism or even commit suicide need to be treated, and the combination of cognitive behavioral therapy and drug therapy has been proven effective for fetishism.

“Fetishism” refers to certain things as objects that cause sexual excitement. In a narrow sense, it refers to inanimate objects of the opposite sex, such as underwear and bras. In a broad sense, it also includes parts other than the genitals of the opposite sex or the same sex, such as hair. , Hands, feet, buttocks, etc. Some people are interested in the shape of objects, such as high-heeled shoes, while others are more interested in the materials of objects, such as silk and leather products. However, fake penises and oscillators that are specifically used to stimulate the genitals in sexual life are not among the fetish objects.

Fetishists like to collect the things they love and will steal them when they are serious. They also like to work in related industries, such as shoe lovers to work in shoe stores. Fetishists like to hold, rub and smell fetish objects, while masturbating to obtain sexual satisfaction, or make the other party wear these items during sex, for example, let the partner put on erotic underwear, play an aphrodisiac effect. For the latter, it is things, not people, that are really aphrodisiac.

Most fetishists are heterosexual men. The objects of their fetishes are highly feminine items such as women’s underwear, stockings and high heels. But women’s fetishes are not necessarily tit-for-tat. For example, not many women are obsessed with men’s labor insurance shoes. Gay men’s fetish objects are highly masculine items, such as men’s leather shoes.

Ordinary people may sometimes be aroused by objects or parts of their bodies, and even enjoy their fetishes. According to the international diagnostic criteria (ICD-10), the diagnosis of fetishes requires abnormal sexual fantasies, sexual impulses and sexual behaviors for more than 6 months. At present, the medical profession believes that fetishism is a disorder of sexual preference, which has little to do with personal morality and willpower. As long as the fetish person feels good, there is no problem; if they are too entangled with the fetish object, they will have serious psychological barriers and cause trouble in their lives. For example, a male fetishist cannot get an erection without a fetish object.

Fetishes are not at risk of rejection

The academic circles still know very little about the causes of fetishism. Some scholars believe that fetishists have suffered abnormal sexual assaults when they were young, or observed abnormal sexual behaviors, and then imitated and strengthened them continuously, thus forming fetishism.

Fetishism is related to personal growth experience, family and social cultural environment, improper sex education and other factors. Therefore, prevention of fetishism should start from a young age and avoid bad sexual stimulation. Mothers should not sleep with a boy after the age of 3, don’t wear underwear in front of the child, and don’t play with the boy’s sexual organs. Intimacy between husband and wife, especially sexual life Avoid letting children see.

Neuroscientists believe that fetishism may be caused by the interconnection between two adjacent areas of the brain. For example, in 2002, an experiment found that the brain area responsible for processing foot sensory information is closely adjacent to the area processing sexual stimulation.

Studies have found that fetishists are withdrawn, poor in social communication skills, and do not know how to establish intimacy. Some scholars believe that fetishists cannot engage in normal sexual contact, and have to obtain sexual satisfaction in ways that are not accepted by society. . Especially men who lack confidence in their sexual attractiveness and sexual abilities, are afraid of being rejected by the opposite sex and feel embarrassed, so they put their “sexual interest” on inanimate objects. There is no risk of being rejected, and they feel inside. It’s safe.

Treatment: There is no specific medicine for fetish

At present, more and more research evidence shows that cognitive behavioral therapy combined with drug therapy is effective for fetishism, but this takes a long time.

Cognitive behavioral therapy does not analyze how fetishism is formed or why it occurs, as long as it can change the patient’s behavior and relieve their psychological discomfort. Let patients learn to change irrational thoughts and resolve inner conflicts.

Aversion therapy, when the fetish object makes the patient sexually excited, immediately create uncomfortable stimuli to allow them to establish a conditioned reflex. For example, discharging unpleasant gas to fetishists can be associated with abnormal sexual behaviors, making the patients disgusted with those behaviors.

In the thinking interruption method, the therapist asks the patient to think about the fetish object and suddenly shouts: “Stop!” The patient’s thinking will be interrupted, and then he will think about other content.

Drug treatment, there is no specific medicine specifically for fetishism. Some drugs can be used to suppress abnormal sexual impulses in patients, such as antidepressants. Some drugs reduce sexual desire by suppressing sex hormones, which can make patients not interested in fetish objects. Long-term use of antipsychotic drugs and sedative hypnotics can reduce fetish obsessions, which makes the patient confused and not interested in anything, but the problem reappears after the drug is stopped. Some drugs can also cause addiction. In fact, Is not appropriate.