May 08, 2021

A person can make up to 150 friends in his lifetime

Robin Dunbar, professor of evolutionary anthropology at the University of Oxford in the United Kingdom, inferred a well-known “Dunbar number”, that is: no matter how many friends there are on mobile phones or chat software, the human cognitive ability allows an individual to have about 150 stable friends ( Contact at least once a year).

A European proverb says that the so-called friendship is a heart in two bodies, and the Chinese also use “good enough to wear a pair of pants” to describe iron buddies. Today, the concept of “friends” has become more diversified: there are close friends who meet every day and often rub against; there are also old friends who have been seen for a long time but always missed; there are also netizens who have never met but are familiar with each other. Boyou…So, can we really make friends all over the world?

Robin Dunbar, professor of evolutionary anthropology at the University of Oxford in the United Kingdom, inferred a well-known “Dunbar number”, that is: no matter how many friends there are on mobile phones or chat software, the human cognitive ability allows an individual to have about 150 stable friends ( Contact at least once a year). From the tribal villages of the Neolithic Age, to the Roman Legion Squadron, to modern enterprises.

Even modern technology such as dating sites can only help people expand the number of casual and passive contacts, and has little effect on the number of close friends in the core circle of friends. So we will find that friends also have a phased nature. Although old friends who have not seen each other for many years are still very kind, they have actually retired from your inner circle.

The high population mobility in modern society forces us to change the concept of “people are not as good as they are”. So, what should an ideal circle of friends be like? The core part should be a few confidants who know and trust each other, just like “life has three or five confidants, it is enough”; at the same time, it is best to have a relatively loose and more confidant. A broad social network does not have much daily contact, but cooperation can be established when necessary. This is “a good way to go if you have more friends.”