1. The source of stress
The so-called stress, psychologically refers to the interactive relationship between external stimuli and the subject’s response. That is to say, the individual’s response to the threatening stimulus in the environment after the brain’s thinking. In this respect, the individual is very different. For example, a stimulus is threatening, but the individual cannot recognize it as threatening, and it is not a threat to him (her). Also, when the individual is sure that the stimulus situation is threatening, but his (her) ability and experience are sufficient to overcome the difficulties, it will not form pressure on him. When we talk about stress, we often refer to negative reactions.
In real life, there are many sources of stress. We can divide it into three aspects: life, work and occupation, and psychology.
1-1. Regarding life, life changes often create pressure. Psychologists have developed a special life change and stress scale, which lists dozens of life changes from heavy to light, and finally judges the pressure by the score. The first ones listed are: death of spouse, divorce, separation of husband and wife, death of relatives, personal illness or injury, newly married, unemployed, retirement, illness in the family, pregnancy, difficulties in adjusting to sexual relations, borrowing, changing occupation and job position, children Leaving home in adulthood, involved in litigation, etc.
1-2. The main sources of occupational and work stress are (not in order of severity): just entering work or changing jobs, personal ability is not suitable for work, personal body is not suitable for work, and relationship with superiors or colleagues is not harmonious , Frustration in advancement, mistakes or mistakes in work, punishment or demotion, boredom with the work itself or the working environment, dissatisfaction with remuneration and treatment, etc. In the pressure of work, the pressure from interpersonal relationship is invisible and huge. Institution workers should pay particular attention to this point.
1-3. There are two main sources of psychological pressure, one is frustration and the other is conflict.
The so-called frustration refers to the psychological feelings that are intertwined with negative emotions such as anxiety, confusion, anxiety, anger and other negative emotions caused by personal motivational behaviors. Psychologically speaking, what is important is not frustration, but the feeling of frustration. One thing that one person thinks is a frustration, another person may think it doesn’t matter. The ideal approach is to hold on. The feeling of frustration can neither be too strong nor without. Breaking down, the response to setbacks can be divided into two types: rational and emotional. Intellectually, it can be considered frustration, but emotionally, it is best not to affect the will and emotions for frustration. What politicians need most is this quality. Because the career of a politician is full of setbacks, and it can even be said to be unpredictable. If you cannot bear the setbacks, you cannot wait for the opportunity to make a comeback.
Conflict refers to the psychological conflict, which refers to the psychological dilemma formed by the individual having two motives at the same time and unable to meet at the same time. It can be divided into three types: double conflict, double avoidance conflict and avoidance conflict. Human life is multifaceted, with different levels, career level, and social level. The problems encountered at different levels require personal choice and judgment. When making choices and judgments, some focus on feelings, some focus on rationality, and some have to consider various stakes due to gains and losses. In this way, it is inevitable that psychological conflicts in daily life and work are inevitable. Perhaps the higher and the stronger the person, the more psychological conflicts he faces, because he has more motivations and goals than the average person. With many motives and goals, how can we avoid conflicts in choices?
Facing the pressure in life and work, it can cause people’s physical and mental reactions. Physiologically, it can cause dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system, endocrine system and immune system, leading to a variety of diseases. For example, the recognized type A personality is prone to heart disease, and the type C personality is prone to cancer. The more common physical symptoms caused by psychological stress include: palpitations, headaches, tight necks, insomnia, cranky thoughts, constant chest tightness, numbness of hands and feet, and inattention. In this case, if there is no obvious physical examination , Severe physical illness, can indicate that the psychological pressure has become more serious. Stress acts on people’s psychology and easily triggers negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, depression, and indifference. These negative emotions are an important cause of psychological difficulties in adapting and mental illness.
2. Methods to relieve psychological pressure:
When we talk about relieving stress, we must understand that moderate stress is good for work and good for people’s health. But everything has a degree beyond what the individual can bear, and it must be relieved in time. How to relieve stress and maintain mental health? Experts believe that there are generally the following methods:
2-1, avoid and stay away from sources of stress.
This needs to be determined according to the individual’s situation, and there is no unified model for everyone. For example, when you buy stocks, don’t buy them if you have low mental capacity. Another example is Scarlett, the protagonist in the American novel “Gone with the Wind” when encountering uncomfortable things, he often said: I don’t think about it now, if I always think about it now, I will go crazy. Let me think about it tomorrow.
2-2. Use psychological defense mechanisms appropriately and reasonably.
For example, rationalization is to give a reasonable explanation to the pressure. For example, after being criticized by the leader, the key is to think that you have not done your job well, and the leader should criticize it. The same is true for other people. It is reasonable and you may be calm. Common psychological defense mechanisms include depression, projection, and sublimation.
2-3. Re-evaluate the event or situation.
The problem may not be as serious as you thought. Considering the problem from another angle may suddenly become clear. Even mistakes or mistakes still have opportunities to be compensated.
2-4, seek support.
When the psychological pressure is too great, you can talk to relatives, friends, and psychologists and ask for help. Don’t hold on. In fact, it is wise to admit that you are weak for a certain period of time, and then use external helpful support to reduce tension and weaken negative emotional reactions.
2-5. Appropriate exercise and cultivate multiple hobbies.
When a person is in a bad mental state, or a bad state of mind, sitting there thinking, worrying, and lamenting, not only does not help solve the problem, it will aggravate negative emotions. Going outside for a walk, running a lap, playing ball, doing gymnastics, swimming, will release psychological pressure and adjust emotions. Enlightenment: Exercise is the foundation of life and the best way to maintain youthful vitality. Some white-collar women like to drink tea and read books in limited free time, and they like to be quiet and not to move. You know, exercise is a kind of active rest, which can completely relax your tired nerves.
2-6, take the initiative to eliminate stress.
If a pressure is objective, blindly avoiding it is not the fundamental solution. Changing from passive to active, taking effective actions and changing the status quo is the best policy. This has to solve two problems of understanding. One is that everything can be changed. The second is to take action to change. For example, a person feels that he lacks a confidant in the group and cannot communicate with others, so the psychological pressure is great. After confirming the above two points of understanding, I began to look for the reasons. There are other reasons, and there are reasons of your own. It is difficult for others to change directly, or to influence others to change only through their own changes.
In the pressure of occupation and work, the quality of interpersonal relationship is an important factor that directly affects personal mental health, and then affects the cohesion and work efficiency of an organization. From a personal point of view, in a group, being able to get along with the vast majority of people is happy and efficient, and the tired work will also be easy. So, what is a generally recognized personality that is easy to be accepted by others? It is generally believed that people who are trustworthy, loyal, enthusiastic and affectionate, love to help others, sincere and frank, have a sense of humor, independent personality, talkative, and intelligent are popular. .
Only mentally healthy people can calmly deal with the pressure and contradictions at work, so as to ensure physical health and lay a good foundation for career development. Therefore, the majority of female compatriots, let us have a positive and optimistic heart and enjoy a beautiful life happily!