Heterophobia means that the patient has a strong desire to be close to the opposite sex in the subconscious, on the other hand, it also has serious anxiety, so it shows abnormal symptoms of tension and fear in front of the opposite sex, and some even have a heterosexual relationship. Psychological symptoms such as delusions.
The fear of the opposite sex is mainly manifested as not daring to make eye contact with the opposite sex, let alone talking with the opposite sex. Even if you talk with the opposite sex, your face will be red and your speech will be slurred. When you see the opposite sex coming towards you, your whole body will be nervous and sweat. Heterophobia symptoms can be roughly divided into: red face fear (red face and ears red), sight fear (eye strain, avoiding eye contact) and facial expression fear (facial muscle tension, unnatural performance).
Heterophobia often comes from self-obsessive-compulsive disorder. When you see the opposite sex, you force yourself not to look at him (her) and cause inner struggles, or force you to produce some weird ideas, and then when you desperately want to control it, the more it becomes hard to control.
Fear of the opposite sex is often seen as shy and honest in childhood and adolescence, but some children will get rid of shyness due to changes in social experience and way of thinking, so there is no opportunity for social fear; and some children will be because of this. More and more sensitive, low self-esteem, and then develop into heterophobia.
If you have heterophobia, you may wish to see if you have the following conditions:
1. Communicating with the opposite sex will be very tense. When the opposite sex takes the initiative to associate with you, you will refuse to communicate because of your tension.
2. As long as you are in contact with the opposite sex, it will happen that you don’t know where to put your hands, you don’t know where to look, and you desperately pay attention to your image.
3. When the opposite sex is staring at you, you will be especially scared and even “angry”
4. When being with the opposite sex, the brain forces itself to produce some weird ideas, such as the other party likes himself, the other party hates you, or even the other party does not wear clothes
5. I am often afraid of what the opposite sex will do to myself, extremely insecure
6. Even if the opposite sex does not associate with you but just exists by your side, you will be at a loss and unable to concentrate
7. Blushing, dry mouth, sweating, shaking…
8. Experienced harm from the opposite sex in love and marriage, leading to distrust and no interest in the opposite sex.
If any of the above 2 or more matches you, it means that you have a typical heterophobia, and you should find a solution
Logically speaking, the opposite sex is an attractive interpersonal relationship. But why are you afraid of the opposite sex? The common reasons and corresponding countermeasures are as follows:
First, increase the chance of contact with the opposite sex. The less you have contact, the less the experience of contact; the less experience, the more at a loss; the more at a loss, the more terror you feel. If it is caused by too little contact, the problem should be solved by increasing contact with the opposite sex. Just hiding blindly forms a vicious circle.
Second, properly deal with the psychological frustrations experienced when interacting with the opposite sex. Some friends may have suffered a loss when dealing with the opposite sex, or they may have been ridiculed, and feel very embarrassed when they see the opposite sex again. Frustration leads to embarrassment, and embarrassment leads to disgust, and finally develops from disgust to fear. If this is the case, you must prevent your conclusions from being partial, thinking that everyone of the opposite sex is terrible. This conclusion is incorrect. You cannot deny your ability to communicate with the opposite sex because of setbacks, and you must not deny your ability to communicate with the opposite sex because of setbacks. Associating with the opposite sex.
The third is influenced by thought. Therefore, facing the opposite sex is always highly alert and nervous, and regards the interaction with the opposite sex too seriously. Associate the opposite sex with fear. When you think of the opposite sex, you are afraid. When you see the opposite sex, you are even more afraid. Over time, it forms a kind of conditioned reflex, which leads to serious psychological obstacles. Therefore, it is necessary to solve the problem from the value concept and treat heterosexual interaction as the most natural thing in human interaction.
The fourth is the fear of being left out by the opposite sex. People tend to be like this, the more they want to succeed, the more they are afraid of loopholes. It’s the same with the opposite sex. If you are also afraid of being left out, then when dealing with the opposite sex, you should predict the cold out first. All the opposite sex will always like and hate you, so you will definitely meet the opposite sex who likes you, and he will be enthusiastic about you. With this plan, your fear of being left out will slowly fade.
Finally, you should remember this truth. In fact, the opposite sex is also afraid of you. If you face each other, you will also feel the innocence and naturalness of the opposite sex.