September 27, 2022

Use mental age to improve interpersonal relationships

The level of “mental age” is closely related to factors such as heredity, personality, experience, and environment, and even affected by recent mood and other factors. The “mental age” has its own advantages and disadvantages, and there is no absolute difference between good and bad.

For example, a person whose “mental age” is lower than the biological age will appear naive, which is not conducive to personal socialized survival and growth, but his mentality is usually simple and happy, likes to participate in activities, energetic, and not conservative; another example, a “Mental age” is much older than the actual age, although it will feel mature and stable, but because the city is too deep, it is difficult to have mutual understanding and common language with people of the same age.

In fact, “mental age” is not a “fixed value”, it can be changed. If we can use this change with a little care, it will become a “sliding rheostat” to improve various difficult-to-communicate “resistance”.

If we treat children, we will naturally communicate with them in “children’s tone”. At this time, we are lowering our “mental age” to the scale of being close to the other party, so we will not feel communication barriers.

Another example is that we usually find it difficult to communicate with our parents as adults. That’s because, in the eyes of parents, we are always children. Sometimes we wishfully think that parents should be happy, but ignore what they think of happiness in the end.

Your parents’ love for you does not disappear with your age. If you really don’t need them to pay, miss and give you pointers, I’m afraid they will feel more lost than happiness. Therefore, in front of the elders, we must appropriately show the “mental age” lower than the physical age.

Understanding the pros and cons of the “mental age” of each age group, and making use of it when interacting with people of different ages and personalities, will make you more comfortable in interpersonal relationships.