In the questionnaire about office secrets, “have you ever heard or talked about secrets in the office?”, “what type of secrets are heard most often in the office?”, “what kind of office secrets Do you feel uneasy or anxious?” Six questions.
The survey showed that more than 60% of the interviewees said that they occasionally heard or talked about secrets in the office, and 23.86% of netizens who had frequent contact with secrets showed that there are not too many “big speakers” around white-collar workers.
Over 60% have spoken or heard secrets
In fact, the anxiety of white-collar workers is inseparable from the “secret”. Although we chant “respect for privacy” every day, “I tell you a secret, you must never tell others” is like a curse, always drawing our curiosity, always indulging our ears to catch anything Little secrets, and then add a psychological burden because of keeping “secrets”. After all, knowing some office secrets is more painful than not knowing, because it may be related to your future, the private life of the boss, the privacy of colleagues, and the politics of the office…In short, they are all “secrets that cannot be said”. .
The secrets are mostly related to struggle
As for the prevalence of “office secrets”, the survey listed 4 specific reasons: where there are struggles, there are secrets, people are confused, driven by the instinct of curiosity, and the spread of secrets can maintain the feelings of colleagues, and work pressure is too great. Speaking/listening to secrets can relieve boredom and blood pressure.
So, what are the intentions of those who spread the secret? Comparing the options may give white-collar workers some inspiration. The survey showed that “where there is a struggle, there are secrets” with a 48.32% vote rate. It is not difficult to see that some secrets are leaked out with ulterior motives, and whether the ears can achieve “the abacus in the chest-knowing in their hearts”.
Office favorite exposes weaknesses
“What type of secrets are heard most often in the office?” Some netizens said in a post that it must be an “office romance”, but the result was “a big mistake”. “Exposing others’ shortcomings” ranked first with 42.82%, and only 2.63% chose office romances.
When asked what kind of office secrets would make you feel uneasy and anxious, more than half of the netizens who chose “company policy adjustments (such as salary and welfare policy adjustments)” and “personnel changes (such as colleagues, leadership resignation, etc.)” etc., can be seen White-collar workers still do their best to keep their “rice bowls”.
Netizens Weapon: Avoid becoming a secret “protagonist”
How to deal with office secrets? Netizens said in a post that the first thing to do is to avoid becoming someone’s secret and try to protect their privacy. Don’t talk about private life in the bathroom or corridor of the office. You must know that these are usually secret “high-yield places.” A lot of privacy that occurs in the office may be because it involves too many personal interests and is full of unknown desires. Privacy is also more likely to be regarded as a trump card that can be used in the hand, but whether you play this card, you can become the ultimate winner. It is a difficult problem worthy of careful consideration by white-collar workers. Two principles must be adhered to in the face of privacy: be careful to encrypt the privacy of your boss; don’t treat the privacy of your colleagues as a handle.
Psychologist: The more you know, the more you will be “killed”
“The more you know, the better your chances of being killed.” Everyone has curiosity about secrets. A person’s curiosity about secrets is likely to come from his lack of security in his environment, so he wants to gain more sense of anti-control over the environment by acquiring more secrets. Some hope to gain a sense of responsibility by knowing more things. Some may have done something with a guilty conscience, and are afraid of involving their privacy and become curious about secrets. Therefore, the greater the curiosity about secrets, the worse the self-ability of such people.
To get rid of this “secrecy anxiety disorder”, you must first have a clear position and understanding of yourself. Instead of focusing too much on the gossip, it is better to be steadfast and spend your energy on self-improving actions. Of course, the more secrets you know, the greater the responsibility and the greater the natural pressure. Often some people can’t help but tell the secret in this way to relieve stress. When a secret comes to your lips, please stop here and ask yourself what the hell is it for? Remind yourself that it is your responsibility to keep a secret, and analyze the consequences after the secret is spoken. Of course, to completely get rid of “secrecy anxiety”, the most direct way is to refuse to accept secrets.