October 21, 2021
Sex

What kind of sexual psychology does “sex dream” reveal?

Those dreams that make us unforgettable and unspeakable always meet unexpectedly on certain nights, exuding a dangerous but intoxicating fragrance. What does sex dream mean? What kind of information does it indicate?

Dreaming of having sex with a handsome neighbor you meet every day, or sleeping with your husband’s best friend? Of course, rape or love between humans and animals is even more exaggerated. Such dreams often make the dreamer nervous, and at the same time ashamed to talk, just want to forget them as soon as possible. However, scientists and psychiatrists tell us that, like all kinds of bizarre dreams that appear every night, sexual dreams are just a common mental and physical reaction, and we don’t need to make a fuss about it. Most sexual dreams are not symptoms of mental illness, nor are they equivalent to potential desires, but just a kind of innocent curiosity about our body.

This year, a special article in the Russian “Health” magazine explained the phenomenon of sexual dreams: the wonderful sexual experience that people get in dreams is actually as natural and ordinary as the sex life itself. Every day, in our long sleep time, there will be “rapid eye movement” periods from time to time, blood is perfused to sexual organs, the body appears sexual excitement, males show erectile penis, and females become vaginal moist. At this time, we are prone to sexual dreams, which usually last for 20-25 minutes. Moreover, women are more likely to have sexual content in their dreams during menstruation.

In fact, people can feel sexual pleasure and excitement in their sleep, which is a very safe way to release sexual stress, which is beneficial to the body and mind. Therefore, having a sexual dream does not require us to feel guilty, it is a sign of health and rich imagination.

Here are 5 women who opened their hearts and talked about their dreams. We hope that the analysis we provide can help you better understand the information given to us by sexual dreams. Of course, the meaning of each person’s dreams cannot be exactly the same, nor should it be given a simple and unified answer-because everyone’s final answer is hidden in her own heart.



1. Dream of being raped

Anita, 27, lived with her boyfriend for one year

“The scene in my dream is a chaotic battlefield. I am a female prisoner captured by the army, trembling all over waiting for the upcoming destiny. Soon, the dilapidated tent was opened by a corner, and a few cursing soldiers walked in. Pulled me out of the crowd and threw it on a semi-old military mat. They began to tear my clothes and squeeze my body… Then I was frightened and I couldn’t fall asleep for a long time. I find that my body feels a very thorough comfort. Do I have a tendency to be abused?”

Parsing

The thematic scenes like this being raped and masochistic appear more frequently in the sexual dreams of many women than we can imagine. Many women have become heroines in rape cases in their dreams, but this does not mean that they really desire to be treated roughly by strange men in real life.

Anita’s dreams are of the same nature as this type of sexual fantasy. Just like the analysis of any kind of dream, here we don’t need to be entangled in the details of the dreamer’s narration, because dreams always express a certain inner desire theme in an exaggerated and direct way. The most typical battlefields, soldiers, and female prisoners in this dream are actually expressing a common theme—the dreamer desires to succumb to a powerful control. And this “longing for submission” does not necessarily refer to the bedclothes of her and her boyfriend, but may also exist in all aspects of their lives together. Perhaps, she hopes to find more masculine masculinity in her partner, or she hopes that the other person is more emotionally aggressive.

2. Dream of incest

21 years old just in love

“I recently met a boy who I thought was good, and we began to fall in love. But what happened next made me feel very sad-I often dreamed of having sex with my brother on the night after dating my boyfriend. In my dream, I was going to have sex with a man in a very dimly lit room. I couldn’t see his face, and I was nervous, always afraid that something bad would happen. We just kept kissing and each other Touch, but whenever we really reach a critical moment, someone will break in, and then I was horrified to find that the man in my arms turned out to be my brother!”



Parsing

Although Freud firmly believes that the impulse of incest is hidden in everyone’s heart, but in more cases, dreams about incest only reflect the dreamer’s desire to break through the taboo. Just like incest, with the danger of being discovered and punished, they secretly touch certain moral bottom lines. The dream is likely to indicate her basic attitude towards this relationship. Maybe her love relationship with that boy is hindered by some obstacles, such as opposition from family members or friends. But just like her reaction in the dream, her subconscious wants to further develop a relationship with the boy, and at the same time she is afraid of being told not to. This contradictory mood is the theme that runs through the entire dream.

In addition, some people will have this kind of incest dream when the relationship between husband and wife is tense or when they encounter difficulties in communicating with their girlfriends (boyfriends). I choose family members because I have been comforted by them when I grow up. Similar dreams in this situation are reminding us that our existing relationship has not been able to satisfy us emotionally and spiritually, and we need to work hard to improve it.

3. Dreaming of homosexuality

Apple Elf 29 years old Single

“It was a very strange dream: I fell in love with another woman at first sight in the countryside! She was as beautiful as Venus in oil painting, and the skin all over her body exuded dazzling light. And I seemed to be a man, tight I hugged her body tightly and felt her soft breasts. After that, the moment our bodies separated, I suddenly realized that I was a woman! Recently, I often dreamed of having sex with a woman like this. I feel very enjoyable. When I wake up, I will be particularly puzzled. Am I gay? What is going on? Oh, I have to say one more thing. I am working in a software company and I am surrounded by men. Nervous, and rarely relax, many times I think I am not a woman anymore.”

Parsing

Many heterosexuals have had homosexual dreams, especially women. In today’s era, the female body is regarded as an appreciation. Compared with men, we have much more opportunities to see bodies of the same sex. When I was a child, I was my mother, and when I grew up, I became a star and model in various media, and of course the heroine in erotic works. Therefore, women are more likely to see women who are having sex in their dreams. This does not mean that dreamers have a homosexual tendency.

This dream of Apple Elf should only help her to accept her femininity in terms of sex. Obviously, where she works are all men, she also pursues their recognition and recognition in terms of achievement. In this case, in her dream, she appreciates the body and charm of a perfect woman, which is actually an indirect expression: she very much hopes to maintain her femininity and charm, hopes to be or thinks that she should be in her dream That beautiful woman enjoys her gender role as a woman more fully in sex and other aspects of life.



4. Dreaming of having sex with an ex boyfriend

Ruolin was engaged to her fiance at the age of 31

“At Christmas last year, my fiance and I held an engagement ceremony. We prepared to get married as soon as we got the house key. I believe that I love him very much, and I am sure that he loves me very much. It can be said that I think I am emotionally connected. There is nothing missing. But the only problem is that in the past two months, I would often see my boyfriend who broke up before in my dreams, and had sex with him madly under various circumstances (but in fact, our original sex was that It’s quite normal.) Such embarrassing dreams often fill my heart with guilt, and I also feel a little worried about my future life.”

Parsing

Not only Ruolin, many people in life will dream of having sex with her old boyfriend or ex-husband again, but generally few people will confess, they worry that this means disloyal to the current lover. In fact, such dreams only show that the dreamer has picked up some “unfinished events” left in his heart. Usually, this is just because the dreamer did not have the opportunity to express his heart completely to the other party when they broke up, and did not have enough mental energy to recover from the last broken relationship.

Especially in the case of being suddenly abandoned by the other party or discovering that the other party has derailed, breaking up passively will often cause a strong blow to the self-worth and self-esteem of the injured party. As a kind of self-protection instinct, the subconscious will often collect this too painful feeling, until there is enough psychological preparation to let oneself face things that have not been well understood before. Ruolin dreamed of having a relationship with her former boyfriend, in fact, she was reminding herself that she should successfully end the previous relationship first. Of course, this doesn’t really need to see that person again, but to stop avoiding the conflict in his heart, completely end it, and tell him goodbye forever.

5. Dreaming of intercourse with animals

Jing 28 years old married for 3 years

“I have always remembered that wonderful dream. It happened when I was just married. In the dream, I was chained to the depths of the sea by a man with scales on his calf, but I could still breathe. He First, I poured a beautiful blue liquid on my body, and then began to have sex with me. Although I was terrified and didn’t know what would happen in the future, but my body felt very relaxed and comfortable. The whole person was light and light, as if lying down. On a big bed full of foam. When our lingering was over, he poured that blue liquid on me again, and told me: After 49 days of continuous doing this, I will completely become one. A mermaid. Then I realized that he was a fish. I was completely stunned.”

Parsing

The dream of intermingling with animals is not terrible, but it is an indirect reflection of the animal nature preserved in the subconscious mind. Generally speaking, the important meaning of this kind of dreams lies in what animal appears in the dream and how it brings feelings. If someone dreams of a dolphin, it is probably subconsciously longing for more tender and caring sex, because dolphins are caring animals. If you dream of a lion or a tiger, it may mean that the dreamer is eager for passionate and wild sex. It is the subconscious mind that is tempting you to embrace your natural animality.

But the plot that happened in Jing’s dream is not about her sexual entanglement with the man like a fish, but a symbol of intimacy. The theme of the whole dream is, first of all, a wonderful and tender love relationship, as well as the eager yearning and fear of losing herself that she feels when she is about to merge with her lover. Perhaps, this complicated ambivalence is exactly related to the state of life when she had just entered into a marriage.

Related investigations:

Women often dream of being raped

There are many studies on dreams, and there is a generally recognized survey data in the psychology field: 39% of women have dreams of being raped, and 29% of men have experiences of homosexuality in their dreams. 8% of dreams are related to sex

Not long ago, a latest public opinion survey published by Canada found the latest annotations for sexual dreams. This is the first time a country has conducted such an investigation in more than 40 years. The survey was conducted by Antonio Zadra, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Montreal in Canada. He and investigators asked 109 women and 64 men between the ages of 20 and 89, and asked these respondents to report dreams they had had for more than a month, including the content of the dreams, what happened, and Who appeared in the dream. The results showed that 8% of dreams were related to sex. Among them, the “dream lovers” of men are mostly perfect women in fantasy; women are romantic affairs with past lovers or stars and big figures in reality. In addition, men are more likely to have a relationship with more than one woman in their dreams; and 4% of women’s sexual dreams will bring them orgasm. In addition, this study also found that women have as many sex dreams as men.

The effect of sexual dreams on the body

1. The human body is conducting self-inspection and maintenance of various organs and system functions;

2. The orgasm in sleep can make people get rid of the mental stress caused by the day;

3. Sexual dreams are a compensation for not getting sexual satisfaction in real life.