Generally speaking, children who are too Oedipus are often caused by the mother’s “emotional private”.
Some mothers hope that their children will only love her and be affectionate to her alone. The more they attach to her, the happier they will be. They are unwilling to see their children have feelings for others, thinking that this will dilute their children’s feelings for themselves.
This selfishness of the mother will affect the formation of the child’s character and even affect the child’s life.
Children are the most sensitive and dependent period between the age of 1 and a half to 3 years. If the mother overprotects and spoils the child, it will artificially prolong the child’s infantile mental period and interfere with the formation of the child’s independence. In infancy, the mother’s hug, caress and other benign stimuli are extremely beneficial to the baby’s physical and mental development, but as the child grows up, the mother treats the child like a baby, which will unknowingly strengthen the child’s Oedipus mentality.
Children’s excessive attachment to their mothers, surrounding their mothers all day, and a narrow life circle will have a negative impact on the children’s intellectual development and the formation of social behaviors. If this situation continues to develop, it will also cause children to be withdrawn and emotionally fragile and unable to adapt to society. Parents should realize that the child is a member of society, he must be in contact with all kinds of people, must have socialized feelings, in order to integrate into society in the future.
How can mothers prevent children from forming “Oedipus psychology”?
1. Let children have more contact with other relatives and cultivate a wide range of family affection. Invite the child’s grandparents, grandparents, grandparents, aunts and aunts and other relatives to stay at home, or let the child live with relatives for a period of time, so that the child can leave his mother appropriately and eliminate his dependence.
2. Find friends for the child and cultivate his feelings for companions. Let the children and their friends visit each other and play together, so that the children will gradually realize that there is not only the love of mother and child and the love of relatives, but also the friendship in life.
3. Don’t often do intimacy to your child like a baby. Such as excessive kissing, hugging, touching his body, etc. Let the child realize that he has grown up slowly and does not need the mother to treat himself like a baby, and gradually weaken the child’s attachment to the mother.
4. From childhood, develop the habit of children sleeping alone. Some boys have to sleep with their mothers arms around at night, otherwise they will not fall asleep. Such children are often thinner, timid, crying, and lack independence. This phenomenon can be effectively overcome by developing the habit of sleeping alone since childhood.
5. Don’t restrict children’s free play too much. Try to let the child read, watch TV, listen to stories independently, etc. If the child has more activities on his own, he will not focus on the mother alone.