September 30, 2022

What should I do if I feel gay?

When talking about human sexual motivation or sexual drive, the object is always defined as the opposite sex. The situation of homosexuality is different. The object of homosexuals’ sexual motivation is not the opposite sex, but the same sex; it is between people of the same sex who feel sexual attraction to each other, and even have sex.

In the history of human sexuality, homosexuality has existed since ancient times. Since the rise of Christian culture, homosexual behavior has been taboo. It is believed that same-sex love is against the will of God. Once homosexuals are discovered, they will be severely punished. Since the last century, even though the taboos on homosexuality are slightly wider, until the end of the 1960s, in psychiatry, homosexuality has been treated as a sexual perversion. Since the beginning of the 1970s, due to the struggle for human rights of homosexuals on the one hand, and the research of psychologists on the other, the prejudice of ordinary people towards homosexuality has finally changed. Therefore, the American Psychiatric Association has deleted homosexuality from the list of mental illnesses in the statistical manual of the diagnosis of psychological abnormalities published in 1980.

In any case, homosexuality is an abnormal phenomenon in the relationship between men and women. This phenomenon was hidden in the past taboo era. Now the relationship between the sexes is becoming more open, coupled with the discovery of AIDS, this phenomenon has attracted more attention than before. In the general population, how many homosexuals are there? According to foreign surveys, about 4% of men and 2% of women are truly gay. my country has not seen a complete survey, but it is estimated that the proportion is similar. In theory, homosexual behaviors or homosexual tendencies should have been revealed after entering adolescence, that is, in the middle school stage, but they are generally covered up.

What should you do if you find that you have a homosexual orientation? Self-pity will not help. At present, it can be adjusted from two aspects:

1. Self-esteem and self-respect, make friends widely. Don’t blame yourself for your homosexuality, and don’t allow this kind of “love affair” to spread arbitrarily. It is indeed a troublesome and dangerous thing to fall in love with a certain same sex, or even to establish a “love” relationship with the same sex, which is beyond your current maturity level. The wise approach is to make friends widely, both of the same sex and of the opposite sex. This not only helps to dilute your inner conflicts, but also objectively helps to maintain self-esteem, so that you will not be hurt by your heart prematurely and seriously.

2. Find out the reasons and seek countermeasures. The formation of homosexuality may have congenital factors, or it may be caused by acquired circumstances, and the situation is more complicated. It is recommended that you, with the help of a psychiatrist, find out the reasons why you have homosexuality, and work out corresponding corrective measures. It should be pointed out that the correction of most homosexuals will be relatively long-term, and there must be sufficient psychological preparation and continuous efforts.