October 26, 2020

Psychological farewell ceremony for broken love

Psychological explanation:

Lost love, why do we need to do a farewell ceremony?

Rituals are common in narrative therapy. For postmodern us, we need narrative. Anthropologist Miles Richardson believes that people are not only biological existence, economic and social animals, but also storytellers in terms of their essential attributes.

He explained that storytelling is a fundamental attribute of our daily lives. It can even be inferred that if you want to enter the story, you must be a person; on the contrary, if you want to be a person, you must be in the story. Stories are narratives and daily life is behavior. What needs to be explored is the common quality of narration and behavior.

Narrative treatment can be used to hold rituals when defining problems, when treatment is progressing in stages, and when treatment is over.

As an outside witness, the consultant can hold different rituals during different periods of narrative therapy, including problem definition rituals, staged progress rituals, and treatment ending rituals.

Among the various schools of psychological counseling, narrative therapy, as a postmodern treatment technique, embodies the concept of “decentralization and anti-authority”.

The concept of decentralization requires consultants to get rid of the limitations of self-thinking and actively listen to the narratives of visitors, requires consultants to listen without any values, and guide visitors to tell their own stories. Influenced by post-modern thoughts, narrative therapy emphasizes “human-centered therapy”.

In the long-term development of psychological counseling technology, it is believed that “people are sick”. According to the medical model, the consultant searches for the name of the disease and the evidence of the disease.

Narrative psychotherapy has changed the traditional psychotherapy of “people are the problem”, abandoned the concept of “people are sick”, respected the client’s thoughts and experience, and treated the client’s subjective initiative and creativity more positively.

For the visitor, the narrative itself has the dual function of activating the subconscious and guiding the consciousness. In the self-ordering process of the visitor, the potential desire and intuition can emerge, and the emergence of the subconscious mind is the key to the visitor’s self-growth. This process of speaking allows visitors to re-examine their own experiences.

In addition to holding ceremonies, consultants can also consolidate the effectiveness of consultation by encouraging visitors to write letters. Encourage visitors to review and reflect on the consultation process. Studies have shown that a good consultation review letter is equivalent to 3.2 to 4.5 treatment interviews.