October 26, 2020
Sex

Are sexual fantasies beneficial or harmful?

Everyone has sexual fantasies, even men and women who have no sexual experience and monks who believe in the doctrine of abstinence have sexual fantasies deep in their minds. What we know now is that people with open sexual views have more sexual fantasies than those with conservative sexual views;

Compared with people with less sexual experience, those with more sex have more sexual fantasies;

Compared with people who have negative feelings about sexual fantasies, people who feel positive about sexual fantasies have clearer and more persistent sexual fantasies.

What you may be confused about is whether your definition of sexual fantasies is consistent with others? Are sexual fantasies good for people? Why do people feel so polarized about it sometimes?

Sexual fantasy refers to the experience of sexual behavior that occurs in people’s minds. It originates from our imagination or life experience, and usually cannot be separated from the stimulation of certain books, audio-visual products, etc. The process of sexual fantasy is sometimes accompanied by sexual behavior. Time not.

The content of sexual fantasies is very wide. Void romantic images, pictorial decomposition and reproduction of past sexual behaviors, unusual sexual behaviors, and sexual behaviors that touch social taboos. These are often the content of sexual fantasies, most of which are the past. Pictorial decomposition and reproduction of sexual behavior, followed by unusual sexual behavior.

For all people who have used sexual fantasies, the role of sexual fantasies is self-evident-it helps to achieve sexual arousal. Perhaps the sexiest thing is not our sex organs, but the brain. Stimulation to the brain and stimulation to the body are equally indispensable in sex. The direct manifestations of lack of sexual fantasies are low libido and low sexual arousal. Therefore, many sex therapists encourage their patients to use sexual fantasies as the main source of stimulation to enhance their interest and sexual arousal.

Sexual fantasies can also release gender expectations. People can play different selves in fantasies.

Sexual fantasies may be a kind of rehearsal of sexual life, or it may be a kind of satisfaction with “forbidden hope”. Sexual acts that are actually not allowed to occur happen in the brain through sexual fantasies-and this may be It is the place that worries people the most. When a person is fantasizing about sexual abuse, sexual violence, or pedophilia, can we trust that person will not perform the fantasies?

This argumentation process will be very complicated and may not be 100% satisfactory. In the face of possible dangers, doubts and anxiety will always invade the space of trust to the maximum.

For most people, there is a clear boundary between fantasy and practice. People know that their fantasy is a fantasy. In addition, a person’s sexual behavior usually corresponds to his value system. While the content of fantasy makes them excited, they also pay Practices may be prevented by rational thinking-if the practice of fantasy will be opposed to the values ​​of the individual in the current social order, or may bring negative effects that cannot be underestimated, people usually will not implement it.

People who are frightened by dangerous sexual fantasies may be relieved for the time being that order and values ​​can restrain people’s sexual behavior. In fact, they can also affect people’s sexual fantasies. Existing studies have shown that sexual fantasies that are opposed to social order and values ​​(such as fantasies about pedophilia) are more likely to encounter intellectual obstruction than ordinary sexual fantasies-they are more likely to be blocked by themselves in the early stages of fantasy The content of termination and fantasy is also less clear and lasting. People are obviously worried about this kind of fantasy, and the sexual arousal caused by this kind of fantasy is more likely to bring guilt.

Sexual fantasies do not directly lead to behaviors. The reasons that actually lead to behaviors are complicated. This may need to be discussed in a concrete society.

Another concern is more common: people think that sexual fantasies will hinder intimacy, especially those in exclusive relationships who do not regard their partners as the only objects of sexual fantasies. People worry that this means that there is a problem in the relationship. . It is possible that when people are obsessed with exploring the deep meaning behind disloyal sexual fantasies, it may indeed begin to corrode trust and intimacy in relationships.

On the other hand, the more people worry about this kind of disloyal sexual fantasies, the more likely they are to encounter sexual arousal problems. It is hard to say whether these problems are caused by sexual fantasies or by people’s inner paranoia and doubt. The pros or cons of sexual fantasies on intimacy depend on who the two parties are, what personalities the two parties in the relationship have, and the distribution of power between the two parties will make its impact less absolute. To

In some situations, sexual fantasies can be beneficial to individuals. In some extreme situations, sexual fantasies may endanger others. When you are alert that you may take actions that may harm others, you should seek professional help in time. For example, people with pedophilia fantasies should seek psychological counseling or psychiatric treatment to find suitable drug therapy and behavior control methods for them.