What is the rape myth?
Regardless of past and present, rape victims are the least trusted of all victims. Rape myths refer to prejudice, stereotypes, and misconceptions about rape, rape victims, and perpetrators. These views partly formed some widespread, culturally-based ideas, including blaming the rape victim, justifying the perpetrator’s behavior, and blurring the line between rape and voluntary sex.
These myths attempt to explain rape and abuse incidents with preconceived notions, and they are often accompanied by unbalanced reports about sexual violence incidents in the media. In fact, rape myths are so widespread that even the victim himself believes in these misconceptions, and feels self-blame or guilty for it: “I shouldn’t be on the street at 10 o’clock in the evening”, “I shouldn’t drink” and many more.
Rape myths still exist, but they are absolutely wrong-in rape, sexual abuse, and child molestation, the only person who makes a mistake is the perpetrator. To
What is rape culture?
Rape culture allows us to shift the responsibility for rape violence from the perpetrator to the victim. Underage girls were thought to be aware that they would arouse the uncontrollable sexual desires of adult men; the police denied the feelings of the victims and defined certain types of rape as voluntary sexual behavior; women were asked about their past sexual history and drinking history, This information is believed to be useful for judging her willingness or not… These are all rape cultures.
What is condemning the victim?
To condemn the victim is to believe that the victim’s behavior induced the rapist. According to this logic, should we warn women not to live with men, not to fall in love with men, let alone trust men? These separatist claims are clearly unrealistic.
Why is it important to eliminate the rape myth?
The myth of rape allows our culture to rationalize common rapes. The higher the acceptance of the rape myth, the stronger the tendency to blame the rape on the victim.
Myth 1: “Rape is a kind of sexual act triggered by sexual impulse, it is a passion crime.”
This myth romanticizes rape and makes excuses for it. Rape is not the result of uncontrollable desire, and it is far more than just an unwilling sex. Rape is an act of violence intended to conquer others. Many rapists carried weapons, threatened violence and even killed their victims. Up to 90% of rape cases are premeditated and planned, regardless of what the victim wears that day. The desire for power, combativeness, humiliation, control and anger are the main motivations of the abuser. The satisfaction of rape comes from the feeling of power and control, as well as the venting of anger. But this satisfaction is only temporary, so the rapist will look for the next victim.
Myth 2: “She wants to be raped by dressing like that.”
The rapist will look for someone who looks vulnerable to attack, not a woman who wears a particular style. It is a naked condemnation of the victim who thinks that women who wear sexy “desire for sex” or “deserve to be raped.” The eye-catching dress is not an invitation to rape, nor does it necessarily mean that she wants sex. You cannot determine what a woman wants based on what she wears, whether it is sex or something else. Whether in a bikini or a gown covering the whole body, women are at risk of being raped.
No matter what they wear, no one “deserves” to be raped, and no one “wants” to be raped. This myth shows once again how much rape is sexualized in our society. No matter what the victim wears, he is not responsible for the occurrence of rape. After all, if the rapist did not commit violence, rape would not occur.
Myth 3: “Women who drink and take drugs want to be raped.”
Drinking does not mean consent. Women and men have the same right to drink, and it is easy to be violated and does not mean that they are willing to be violated. If a woman does not give her consent because she is drunk, drugged or unconscious, then this is rape. Rape is just the fault of rape. Alcohol can also be used by rapists as a weapon to control women and prevent them from calling for help. As part of their rape plan, the rapist will encourage the victim to drink more or target someone who is already drunk. Drinking alone does not cause rape, it is just one of the many weapons of the rapist.
Myth 4: “Men are born to want sex, don’t blame them, blame God if you want to.”
The concept of “boys want to be men” is a classic example of culture encouraging boys to be rude and unyielding. At the same time, culture also requires girls to be obedient and passive. But these gender stereotypes must be broken. There is no such thing as a man’s “nature”. They are neither programmed robots nor animals running wild in the wilderness. The rapist is a sane human being, and so is the raped woman.
This kind of myth implies that men have an uncontrollable sexual desire, which will be ignited by a pair of beautiful legs under a short skirt at any time. This kind of condemnation of the victim only strengthens the misconception that men are lustful by nature. But men, like women, have the ability to control the “physical needs” of sex.
Myth 5: “When a woman says’no’, she is actually saying’yes’.”
Whether women, children or men, saying “no” is not because “they should be like this” or “they actually want it.” “Don’t” is not the opening remark of “want” bargaining, it should never be assumed to have any subtext, and it is not difficult to understand at all: no, no!
Myth 6: “She started flirting first.”
This sentence means that if a woman leaves a coquettish impression or shows interest in sex, she loses the right to choose whom, when and what kind of sex to happen, and to change her mind at any time . In other words, if a woman is interested in sex, she is no longer a person of judgment, but a sexual object that can be used by all men. Deciding whether to have sex requires the consent of both parties. According to the definition of the law, consent refers to an agreement reached without oppression, deception or intimidation. If not, it is rape.
Myth 7: “She acquiesced.”
There is no “acquisition”, consent can only be expressed clearly. Going to a party is not tacit consent; entering a room with a person is not tacit consent; being naked with a person is not tacit consent; not being able to express rejection because of falling asleep or other reasons is not tacit consent; consenting to a certain sexual behavior is not acquiescing to other forms of sexual behavior. If it is not clearly determined that both parties want certain specific behaviors, then nothing should happen.
Myth 8: “Women desire to be raped.”
We must make it clear that no woman desires to be raped! Fantasy wild sex is sex that both parties can control and stop immediately when it becomes unpleasant, not like rape, where the victim is unable to control and stop violence. No one will enjoy being raped, women will not, men will not, children will not. Rape is a kind of mental torture, which can cause continuous trauma to the victim’s body and mind.
Myth 9: “Women must converge to avoid’involving rape’.”
“Provoke rape”, it seems that rape is something that you get into the street, not an act of violence against you. Women have struggled for centuries to be able to express their demands freely and travel the world independently. There is no reason for them to give up these freedoms in order to avoid “provoking rape.” Please be clear: Women are not “inducing” rape, but being raped.
Myth 10: “Rape mostly occurs between strangers.”
Among the reports of college girls and adult women, 80%-90% of sexual assaults are from acquaintances. There is no uniform characteristic of rapists, but in general, most survivors of sexual assault know the perpetrator: they may be their neighbors, friends, acquaintances, colleagues, professors, classmates, husbands, lovers, or former lovers.
Myth 11: “Most rape reports are false accusations.”
This statement copied the stereotype of “women love revenge” to silence more victims and discredit victims seeking legal help. It is very difficult for a rape victim to stand up and call the police, so false reports of rape are extremely rare.
In fact, according to the 2013 US home and office crime statistics, the misreporting rate of rape and other sexual crimes accounted for about 2%-3%, which is no different from other serious crimes. Not to mention the various problems in the handling of rape cases, people think that the false report rate of rape cases is much higher than the reality, and it is also much higher than other crimes.
In other words, people are more willing to believe that a woman has been robbed rather than raped, and there is no reasonable explanation. The more grim reality is that only about one-fifth of rapes are finally reported.
Myth 12: “Men will not be raped.”
It is true that men can also be raped or sexually assaulted. Not only gay men, but men of any sexual orientation can be raped. Sexual assault is a violent act of power to conquer and control others, not out of sexual attraction to a certain gender. Men become victims of rape for the same reasons as women: they are physically and mentally exposed to violence and threats.
Studies have shown that most sexual crimes against men come from heterosexual men; at the same time, most sexual assaults involving male victims are gang rapes. Because it is more difficult to win the trust of law enforcement on rapes that occur on men, reporting a crime often causes secondary harm to the victim. This results in only 1 out of every 100 men who are sexually assaulted.
Myth 13: “Only lonely, unattractive men will rape women.”
Rape offenders cannot be identified externally. They may come from any social class, regardless of race or ethnicity. Anyone with a high charisma index is likely to commit rape. Many rapists have a satisfactory sex life with their partners when they commit violence.
Myth 14: “A person who has been raped will appear insane.”
The reaction to rape is very diverse and personal. The victim may show a variety of reactions ranging from calmness, stupidity, laughter, anger, astonishment to hysteria. Many victims will be in a state of shock after being raped, so that their emotions appear flat or numb. Every victim has a different way of coping with the trauma caused by the abuse.
Myth 15: “The victim never screamed or resisted, so this is not rape.”
In fact, the absence of visible evidence of violence does not mean that the victim has not been raped or assaulted. When the victims are threatened and manipulated by violence or weapons, they often cooperate with the rapists out of fear of being killed or severely injured in order to save their lives or minimize injuries. These may reduce their resistance. Moreover, when the victim is raped, the body is often paralyzed due to fear or shock, which makes it impossible to move or resist.
Myth 16: “If the victim does not say it right away, it is not rape.”
When a person experiences extreme stress and trauma, the psychological mechanism will change to cope with emotions such as shame and guilt. Rape victims may experience a great sense of unreality and division due to the fright. Rape Trauma Syndrome is a known disease that occurs after the patient has experienced extreme trauma. It will affect the patient’s thoughts, feelings and behavior. This is also one of the factors that cause victims to often delay reporting.
Myth 17: “Because she went out alone.”
According to this logic, if a woman wants to avoid being raped, she can only be isolated from society, cover her body, hide her sexual desire, never go out without being accompanied, and stay at home all the time. In fact, this is an attempt to control women and restrict women’s freedom. It implies that a curfew should be imposed on women, who can only go out at certain times and stay at home at other times.
Myth 18: “Sex workers will not be raped.”
This is purely an excuse for rape. Sex workers, like anyone else, have the right to say no. The sex transactions between them and their clients were agreed upon by both parties, and that was not called rape.
Myth 19: “In some cases, rape victims are also at fault.”
In any case, rape is never the victim’s fault! Sex without consent is rape, which is a crime.
Myth 20: “The rapists are all mentally ill.”
It is wrong to think that perpetrators have mental illnesses. The crimes committed by mentally ill persons are very different from sexual violence, and the psychological and mental problems of perpetrators of sexual violence are no different from those of the general public.
Myth 21: “Rape is a rare crime that only affects a few women.”
It is estimated that on average, 1 in 8 women has been raped. Due to the low reporting rate, there is no data on adult males being sexually assaulted. In addition, 1 in 4 girls had experienced some form of sexual assault before she became an adult. The ratio of this data among boys is 1:8, that is, 1 in 8 boys .
A report released by the United Nations in September 2013 showed that violence against women is widespread in the Asia-Pacific region. Almost one in four men has raped a woman or girl; the data source for this survey includes China. There may be victims of sexual assault around you, but they may avoid talking about the experience of being assaulted, and many people will completely erase it from their memory.
Myth 22: “Rape only happens at night and outdoors.”
Rape can happen at any time and anywhere. Many rapes occurred during the day and in the victim’s home.
Myth 23: “Only bad women can be raped.”
No victim of any crime will suffer as much doubt as a rape victim. Although there are various reasons that may lead society to condemn the victims, this mainly stems from the consciousness of self-protection. If people believe that victims are responsible for rape because they put themselves in an unsafe situation, such as going out at night, drinking alcohol, wearing revealing clothes, or “tempting” the rapist, then others will be “we won’t do this” Feel safer.
But the basic fact is that no matter what the situation and environment, before consent is obtained, “no” is “no”!